Long Distance (it isn't so bad)
I never thought I would want to be in a long distance relationship. It always seemed difficult, other people's experiences with it turned me off to the idea, and the way it's portrayed in movies was always the worst.
When my boyfriend and I started dating, "long distance" didn't even come to mind — I just knew that I loved him, and I knew it would work, regardless of how far apart we were at the time. And you know what? I don't mind it so much. It really isn't so bad.
Sure, I would love to be able to see him every day, wake up with him and go to sleep with him, do little things like go grocery shopping, and big things like getting a place together. And yes, it is frustrating when I come home from a long day at work and all I want is to fall into his arms and kiss him. Of course, I miss his presence, and hearing his voice in person instead of through a phone or my computer speakers. It just isn't the same.
But the thing about long distance that outweighs the bad is that you fall in love with that person in ways you might not have if you were around them all the time. I don't see my boyfriend often, but that gives me the opportunity to miss him, and really focus on all the things I love about him, because in his absence, I fall harder and further in love with him and all the little things he does. When we do see each other, it's a wave of emotions and happiness, and it's as though nothing else in the world matters — it's just him and I. When you do get the opportunity to spend time with each other, you're more aware of the time you have with them, you learn to appreciate the minutes and seconds because it will be months before you see them again. Long distance relationships are different than typical relationships because you get to fall in love backwards. Instead of seeing them, feeling them, and getting to know their body — you get to know their mind. I fell in love with my boyfriend before I even touched him, and I strongly believe that's why our relationship is so strong, and that's why this distance between us isn't hard on us. We fell in love just based on our words and trust, and I really admire that.
Years from now when we look back at this period in our lives and in our relationship, we'll know that it was this moment that made us strong. We'll think back on this moment and we'll be thankful.